Kyra Lanae

P.O. Box 2214

Upper Darby, Pennsylvania

United States of America

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Love, Sex & Marriage {Vlog Notes}

November 11, 2017


Love, Sex & Marriage are all beautiful when expressed correctly. As I spent hours basking in God’s presence, I was overwhelmed with His pure, perfect love for me. God’s love is so strong, so deep, so…unknown. Unknown, you may ask? Well, yes. As I thought about my deep love for God and His even deeper love for me, I realized that my understanding of His love didn’t just happen overnight. It was and continues to be an ever growing gradual process. I decided in that moment that I wanted to go a little deeper and understand a bit more of His unknown love.


I began looking at Genesis, the beginning by definition. Genesis 4:1a says, “And Adam knew Eve his wife; and she conceived…” In Hebrew, the word knew used here means “to know” (properly to ascertain by seeing). Okay, so what exactly does ascertain mean? Ascertain is to find (something) out for certain. I really hit a gold mine when I began to look at its synonyms: find out, discover, get to know, learn, discern, see, understand, comprehend, establish, figure out. As I began to substitute those words into Genesis 4:1, I began to see a clearer picture. On the surface, when Genesis 4:1 says that Adam knew Eve, we know that sex is what took place as his wife conceived. On a deeper level, Adam: discovered Eve, got to know Eve, learned Eve, discerned Eve, saw Eve, understood Eve, comprehended Eve, figured out Eve!


Immediately, I made the connection with 1 Corinthians 13:12 that says, “For now we see through a glass, darkly; [referring to the church, Christians, ME] but then face to face [with God]: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known.” We are the bride of Christ, and He knows us, just like Adam knew Eve. God understands everything about us, even the things that we don’t understand about ourselves. We are the ones who are learning about Him.


So, then I began to look at the initial consummation of marriage and act of sex. Genesis 3:24-25 reads, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.” My attention drew to cleave and not ashamed. With the word cleave, in one form it means to cling or adhere but figuratively in the Hebrew it means to catch by pursuit.  So Genesis 3:24 could read, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother and shall catch his wife by pursuit." How true is that of the relationship between Jesus and us. Jesus is always in pursuit of us. We are his bride. Ephesians 5:25-31 further illustrates that comparison.


Ephesians 5:25-31

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;   That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,    That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.    So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.    For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:    For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.    For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.   


Next is the phrase “not ashamed".  Although the man and woman were naked, or transparent, they were not ashamed. In marriages, how awesome is it when you can be transparent with each other, knowing that your experiences, quirks and qualms won’t be judged and your trust won’t be betrayed? There’s so much safety in that type of environment. That’s a sweet spot in marriage between a husband and wife and an even sweeter spot between Jesus and his bride, you and I. We can come before Him with all of our mess, faults, shortcomings, past, present and future and not be ashamed. His love for us isn’t dependent on our ability to “have it all together".



The amazing thing about God’s word is that He not only shows us how to relate to one another but also how to relate to Him. We can clearly see what our love, sex and marriages should look like but on a deeper level, we can understand the unbreakable, passionate, everlasting bond God has with people. It’s no coincidence that the church is called the bride of Christ. Now, don’t get all weird on me right now but think about this: when a groom and bride come together in the most intimate way, the groom is the one that enters the bride. Likewise, when we accept Jesus into our hearts and pursue a loving relationship with Him, it is God in the form of the Holy Spirit that enters us. Do I say that in some perverse sexual way.  Absolutely not! Sex is the closest and most intimate act between two people and God designed it that way to give us a glimpse of the most intimate relationship that exists, and that is His relationship with us. That’s right, His relationship with you and I is as tender and intimate as a groom consummating his marriage with his bride.


Head over to YouTube and check out the song (with lyrics) by Bethel, titled Closer. It will truly set the atmosphere for God’s presence. Just a few words from the song says:

Draw me a little closer

Take me a little deeper

I want to know your heart

I want to know your heart


‘Cause your love is so much sweeter 

Than anything I’ve tasted

I want to know your heart

I want to know your heart


It’s amazing how heartfelt words of adoration for God can double as intimate exchanges between a natural husband and wife.


So here’s a few take-a-ways whether you’re single or married.

If you’re single:

·         Your relationship with God should be your main priority.

·         Fall deeply in love with God, understanding that He loves you with an everlasting love.

·         Understand that there are places in you that only God should AND can fill.

·         If marriage is a desire, enjoy this gift and freedom of singleness that He has blessed you with. Believe it or not, once you’re married you’ll have to fight a little harder to steal those precious moments away with your first love, God.

If you’re married:

·         Your relationship with God should serve as a mirror to your marriage. The way that God relates to you should be the relationship that you strive for in your marriage.

·         Fall deeply in love (again and again and again and again) with your husband.

·         This is the most intimate relationship on this earth that you will ever have. Enjoy it and fulfill your husband’s needs and desires that God created only you to fulfill.

·         Enjoy this beautiful covenant gift that God has blessed you with. Protect it. Cherish it. Show your first love, God, that you appreciate it.


Other scriptures to reference:

Isaiah 54:5

2 Corinthians 11:2

Isaiah 62:5

Hosea 2:14-20NLT

Proverbs 30:18-19

Matthew 19:4-6

1 Corinthians 7: 3-5

Hebrews 7:4


<3 always,

Your sister in Christ,

Kyra Lanae



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